School Holiday Arrangements for Separated Parents

School holidays are often a time both parents and children look forward to, offering opportunities for quality time, different activities and travel. For separated and divorced parents, this can also be a time of increased challenges and tension. It is a time where questions around where children will spend their time and how holidays are shared can become sources of disagreement.

This is only furthered when arrangements are not documented or when communication has otherwise broken down, preventing an agreement from being reached. Planning ahead, keeping conversations focused on the children, and maintaining flexibility are key to avoiding conflict during these periods.

Plan Ahead and Stay Organised

Starting discussions about whether child arrangements will alter during the school holidays early, ideally before the holidays commence, gives both parents time to coordinate travel, family visits, and holiday activities. Many families find it useful to confirm plans in writing, either by email or through a parenting communication app such as OurFamilyWizard or AppClose. Having a clear record helps prevent misunderstandings and provides reassurance for everyone.

Focus on the Children

All arrangements should prioritise the children’s wellbeing and their best interests over what feels “fair” to each parent. Children benefit from consistency, reduced stress, and meaningful time with both sides of the family. Avoid putting them in a position where they have to choose between parents. A collaborative approach helps create a sense of stability and ensures they have the opportunity to spend their time outside of school with both families.

Be Flexible and Open to Compromise

No two families have the same priorities, so flexibility is essential. The appropriate agreement will depend on the child’s age, circumstances of the parent, work commitments and, where appropriate, the child’s own wishes. An arrangement of one week on/off between parents may be suitable for one family, whereas numerous weeks at a time may work best for a different family. Flexibility and compromise might be necessary to accommodate travel plans and family events during these longer holiday periods.

Coordinate Expectations

Financial pressures can increase during school holidays. Agreeing on a budget and sharing activities and days out can prevent duplication or overspending. Being aware of the other parent’s plan helps the children enjoy the holidays with both families without unnecessary tension.

When You Cannot Agree

Even with goodwill, disagreements can arise. Options before resorting to court include:

• Mediation: A neutral mediator can help parents explore solutions and reach an agreement.
• Solicitor negotiation: A family law solicitor can act on your behalf and formalise agreements in writing.
• Court Order: As a last resort, an application can be made to the Family Court for a Child Arrangements Order. The court’s decision will focus solely on the child’s welfare in line with the welfare checklist (a set of key factors a court must consider when deciding what arrangement are in a child’s best interests). Court proceedings can be lengthy and costly, with no guarantee of a decision before the school holidays if left to the last-minute.

Financial Considerations

Increased spending, including activities, travel, and clothing, can place extra pressure on separated families. Early discussions about who will cover costs can prevent disagreements. Where maintenance arrangements are affected by changes in circumstances, review options through negotiation, mediation, or the Child Maintenance Service.

Ensuring a Positive Summer

With careful planning and a collaborative approach, the summer holidays can be a positive, restful and exciting time for children. Focusing on their happiness and wellbeing rather than past disagreements increases the chances of a peaceful, memorable summer season for everyone.

How Tozers Can Help

Our experienced family law team can provide guidance and support to ensure holiday arrangements are clear, fair, and in the best interests of your children. We can:

• Advise on co-parenting agreements and formalise arrangements in writing.
• Assist with negotiation or mediation when parents struggle to reach an agreement.
• Provide legal representation and advice if an application to the Family Court becomes necessary.
• Offer practical guidance on financial considerations, including maintenance and holiday-related costs.

Contact our legal experts